Any Given Day

My husband is a stay-at-home dad by circumstance, not choice. On any given weekday, he watches me rush out the door, leaving him to get our 3 1/2 year old to preschool with a cranky, overtired baby in tow. On any given day, he’ll be lucky if he gets to eat lunch in one sitting, or sitting at all for that matter. He’ll take at least three walks because the baby won’t sleep unless she’s in the car seat, the stroller, or with me, and I’m not there. He does all, and yes I mean ALL of the housekeeping. In the course of that any-given-day, he will wash and fold at least three loads of laundry, including cloth diapers, wash the dishes, vacuum the house, unpack the dishwasher, clean the litter box, and even clean the bathroom. And he’ll do it all with a cranky, overtired baby in tow.
On the weekends, he unbegrudgingly takes the baby from me when he knows that I am exhausted from having been up with her or attached to her all night long. And when he gets back from walking with her, he jumps in to play with our 3 1/2 year old son, who has boundless amounts of energy, even at 7:30 am. They spend the day running around, mowing the lawn, going to playgrounds, kicking soccer balls, and playing with toys. At 3 1/2, our son is not always the easier to get along with. He’s bossy and moody, and easily frustrated. But on any given day, my husband will keep him occupied and moving for the entire day so that bedtime with him will maybe be a little less nightmarish for me.
Almost a year ago, my husband found himself a victim of a poor economy and a dysfunctional company. We had just bought a house, and I was 7 months pregnant with our second child when he lost his job. He never wanted to be a stay-at-home dad, and it’s still not where he wants to be. But he never complains. And to watch him with the kids, you would never know that it wasn’t a choice that he made, but rather one that has been temporarily foisted on him. On any given day, he is an amazing father, who manages to put all of his own disappointments aside and be wholly present with his children.
Today is not any given day. It’s Father’s Day. So today, honey, please know that I see all of this, and I love you more than any words could say. Happy Father’s Day.

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